Guy & Carla

Guy & Carla
We love the outdoors, but even more so Nude

Thursday, August 8, 2013

WHAT DO NUDISTS DO WHEN THEY GET TOGETHER



Wow, I’ve heard this before and the answer is simple, the same as any other friends.  
A pool party with some of our nudist friends
We have cookouts.  And movie nights.  And play cards or games.  We sit and visit.  We hot tub. We had a nude wedding.  We swim, go camping, picnics, just about anything you can do with clothing you can do nude… other than go to many public places which is
something we’d like to change but not sure that will happen any time soon.

Guy nude at our pool party
Guy at a nude pool party
Our naturist group has been working on plans for FAMILY friendly events that are not much different than textile families, other than the fact that we are considerate of others and always carry a towel to sit on. 
We are working on plans for camping, floating the river, having cookouts and more.
Playing horseshoes nude with friends
Naked horseshoe game at our house
Naked pool party
One of our nude pool parties

Guy & Carla camping at a nudist resort in Colorado
 Its a lifestyle choice, we choose to be comfortable with our bodies and enjoy nature without restrictions of clothes.  We've been to a
nudist resort where there were people ranging from little kids - babies almost, up to elderly people with oxygen tanks and walkers and wheelchairs.  ALL ARE WELCOME IN THE NUDIST WORLD.  We don't care if you have a six pack or spare tire... you just have to be comfortable with who you are and not worried about the labels on your clothing.





Monday, August 5, 2013

How can we be naked around others?



I hear so many people commenting on how they “couldn’t go naked around anyone else".  And I'm here to tell you, it’s not as difficult as you might think, and once you try it you will wonder why you waited so long.

Here's some of the reasons we here about why someone could never go nude around others-

 You have to have a great body to be nude around others.  Wrong on so many levels! Most think you have to have this perfect body so they use the reason of 'I'm not in good enough shape to do that'.  But the Wonderful thing about the nudist lifestyle is nudists are Very Non Judgemental and we accept each other just as we are.  Nudist will pay much less attention to your body than those in the textile community.  Look at Guy & I, he is in decent shape and I'm a heavy set woman, but No One Cares what we look like in the nudist community.  We've been at nudists resorts and seen seniors on oxygen, little kids, people with missing limbs, a family of little people, and all other types you can imagine. I know it's hard to believe, but most are afraid when they first try it because they expect everyone to stare at them, and it Doesn't Happen.  People will just come up and greet you as if you were dressed, except they are usually more friendly than at social settings where everyone is clothed.  See we tend to judge each other much more when clothed because the 'clothing makes the man' kind of mindset is most prevalent.  And when you're naked there's no Gucci handbags, or expenses shoes to worry about.  People will just judge you on your personality.   It's a wonderful feeling, so don't worry about what you look like naked, its Very Unimportant!  Many women especially, gain a much better acceptance of their body as is it when around nudists.  It can be very liberating and free you from the embarrassment you've carried for years about your excess weight, scars, or whatever.  Nudists don't care about those things and it's amazingly liberating.


I'm just to shy.  Truth is, a lot of nudists are very shy.  But if you'll just try attending a nudist event once, even if you wear clothes, you'll find that you'll feel comfortable with the idea of undressing around others.  You'll see everyone just relaxing and having fun, with no staring, comments, etc and most people realize that they feel more comfortable with the idea than they thought.  Once you shed your clothes and feel the sun on your entire body, and the breeze, the coolness, etc, you'll be sold.  And most likely, no one will even pay any attention to the fact that you just got naked, because everyone else will be anyway.

I'm afraid family, friends or co workers will find out.  Truth is, if you happen to run into one a nudist event, which is rare, you'll know they are into the same thing and it will be no big deal.  And nudists are very understanding of the need for confidentiality and do go around dropping names about who they hung out with nude or something like that.  So it's highly unlikely they'll find out.  BUT, if they do, it's almost always much worse in your mind than in reality.  We finally came out to all our friends and family a few years ago, and most were fine with it.  Some family, and this is the minority, couldn't understand it and don't want to know about it, but they accept that it's who we are and it's no big deal.  So don't worry about is as no one is likely to know unless you tell them.

I've heard that nudists are just perverts or just into it for the sex.  Or that nudist resorts or groups are unsafe for women.  WRONG AGAIN.  Nudists are very protective of others and most nudist resorts are MUCH safer than a public clothed setting.  Nudists are not even allowed to do anything sexual in a public nudist setting.  If they do at a resort, they will be asked to leave quickly.  You WON'T be hit on, and if you are, you tell the owners and that person will likely be removed if it was done inappropriately.



So if you feel you could never try being naked around others, here's a few suggestions to try it out on a safe level and find out if it might be for you.

Start by spending time nude at home.  Walk around, watch TV, and sleep nude.  Then try walking out
in your back yard or any space that is private where you can feel safe and comfortable.   Maybe you have to go up into the mountains, or find a secluded place to lay out and enjoy the feeling of the sun and breeze on your body and allow it to relax you and soon you will realize that this is the way nature intended.  Not bound in textiles (clothing) that make us uncomfortable and put labels on us. I personally hate designer labels, or any labels. We shouldn’t be defined by how much money we spend on our clothing, but rather what kind of human being we are.

Then join some nudist forums on the internet and do some reading.  There's a lot of them out there, and we'll try to list some in a future post.  And finally, join a local nudist group and spend time getting to know them a little on the forums or via email, then when you're comfortable, meet some of them in a public restaurant or someplace like that.  The next step after that is to attend a function. Don't be afraid, just go, and once you try it you'll wonder why it took you so long.  It's an amazingly liberating experience and you will feel as if a
burden has been lifted off your shoulders.

I hope this helps you understand why we can be naked around others, and why you can too.  Try it, you'll love it.  Then post here how it went for you as we'd love to hear.

Thanks,
Guy & Carla Purcella


Wednesday, July 31, 2013

All about our Nude Wedding, featured in a magazine




Being nudists we had the idea of having a nudist wedding, and knowing most of our family and a lot of friends wouldn’t be comfortable with this we decided to have two weddings! One traditional and the other nude. The reaction from our family and friends was mixed.  Some had no problem with it and others were almost horrified at the possibility of being around nude people, OMG, lol.  Other than my daughter no family attended the nudist ceremony but most were fine with it, they just didn't want to see us naked, which wouldn't have bothered us.. 

This was so much fun planning for two weddings.  Guy had never worn a tux before so we did it up nice, black jeans, tux jacket, pink tie/ vest  he looked great!!!  I wore white with a veil.  Yes it was my third wedding but white is for a new start, nothing else. We went with pink shirts for grandkids as our grandsons’ dad is a bit uptight and had told the kids that pink was a girl color and we wanted to show them that its ok and did it in a way that they didn’t have to go against their dad.  And it went with Guy's Pink vest anyway.  We just got them to dress in their pink shirts for our wedding, along with the other grandkids who all had identical pink/white polos and they loved them.  Two of them later wore their pink shirts when starting school that fall.

We had the traditional wedding in our front yard with my son walking me down the aisle and daughter being maid of honor.  All the 5 grandkids were included and they had a blast.  We had about 40 at our wedding, and had a band for dancing.  Both of our mothers were here and that was wonderful. 

I made both the wedding cakes and did the food for both so I was a busy girl which was cool.  All went very well and we had a fantastic day.  

 The next day was even better… we had our nudist wedding in our back yard next to the pool and it was wonderful.  The woman who performed both ceremonies decided to officiate in the nude, which was a first for her, but she enjoyed it.  A close friend walked me down the aisle (nude also) and our daughter was maid of honor and brought a couple of friends with her.  There were about 20-25 at the nude wedding and we all were able to enjoy the pool after.

The reactions from those attending were great since how often do you get the chance to attend a Nude Wedding?  Everyone loved it, and some were well known after that as the 'Guy who attended a nude wedding', lol.  There were really no negative reactions to the whole event so it was very nice overall.  And hey, we got to eat wedding cake twice, lol!  We made a point to get extra messy with the cake the 2nd time and then just jumped in the pool to clean off, which is just another benefit to not wearing clothes.

No one at the nude ceremony was uncomfortable in any way, even the photographer who stayed clothed the whole time. And the photographer is the one who suggested the photo below, which has become one of our favorite, Fun photos. We call it 'The Reception Line', lol.





We were even featured in a magazine called Real People, which is out of the UK, with a story all about our nude wedding. They were searching for a couple who had had a nude wedding to do a story about.  They couldn't find anyone in the UK, but found out about ours somehow and asked us if we'd be willing to be in their magazine with a story about the nude wedding.  We aren't ashamed of our nudist lifestyle so gladly agreed.  The article came out in I believe June of 2013 and although they took liberties with the story to spice it up, it was overall a positive story, so we're happy.



If you've ever considered having a naked wedding, try it.  You may have to have 2 ceremonies like we did to keep everyone happy, but it's worth it.  There's nothing like walking down the isle nude, knowing everyone there is accepting of you just as you are.   And there's much less planning to do for the nude wedding as there's no need for dress selections, shoes, etc.  Ours was very simple, but wonderful.

We weren’t able to go on our honeymoon as the homeowners (we were renting) had gone into foreclosure and we had to start moving right away.  Will talk more about that in another blog post.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

WHY AM I A NUDIST - WOMAN'S POINT OF VIEW



I get asked quite often why I’m a nudist and how can I be comfortable as such.  It’s easy- I like me and I’m not afraid to be who I am.  As a child I was never comfortable in clothes and was never embarrassed about nudity.

I grew up in a conservative household, my parents were very loving but were not ones to be letting us see anything they didn’t think appropriate.  I don’t remember ever seeing my dad with his shirt off and my mom kept covered up with no hint of cleavage and when in a dress no knees would show. Cursing was limited to the basics- dam, hell  nothing worse- well once in a while when my mom would stub her toe or something we’d hear son of a bitch.

As an adult I was limited by my ex-husband’s way of life and tried to follow that to avoid conflict.  He was a bully and didn’t abide by anything that didn’t suit his way of thinking.  I went skinny dipping once with a group of friends and even though he knew about it and was there at the time he was extremely upset with me so it was easier to avoid those circumstances after that.  


Carla watering the flowers nude
Carla watering the flowers nude

Eventually we divorced and I got married a second time to a man who was not happy with anything.  We were together many years and I attempted to keep the peace by not being myself, but eventually that gets old so another divorce.

Guy and I met in 2008 and immediately became friends and when I was going through the stuff with getting divorced I moved into his spare room. Eventually we figured out that we were much more than “friends” and a year and a half after this discovery we got married.  We had three weddings – the official marriage so I could do name change and such, then we had both traditional wedding and nudist wedding.  My daughter was maid of honor for both and that in itself was wonderful as she was able to be nude comfortably.  She isn’t a nudist but is not bothered by us being nude.  My son is not comfortable with it and so did not participate in our nudist wedding.  I will tell more about our weddings in a later post. 


Guy and I are nude as often as possible, have a nudist group in the area and have hosted such events as World Naked Gardening Day (were on local news 4 times for this event and on front page of local newspaper), had a nude wedding, and host meet and greet for other nudists in the area. We encourage those who would like to try nudity to just be themselves and not to worry about what their body type is, no one is perfect and we all have scars and lumps and bumps- it’s part of life.