The Impact of Coming out on Your Job & Family

I think most nudists are afraid to chance coming out to family, friends and co-workers for fear of losing their jobs, family issues, etc. And even though they are family, or close friends, co-workers, etc, we can't ever know what their reaction will be until we make that decision to be open about it. I'm self employed in construction with my own small drywall and painting business and I figured if others found out about my nudist life it could hurt business. But, I slowed chanced mentioning it to more and more of them, and found, that hasn't been the case at all. In fact, it’s been mostly very positive.

With customers, I approach the subject with casual confidence and am not overbearing. I'll just casually mention it somehow such as mentioning how good it feels to be able to finally get out and get some sun without tan lines and then I get a feel for their reaction. Or I’ll get to talking about liking privacy and mention that we like to sun without swimsuits so privacy is a must for us. Numerous customers have actually allowed me to work naked on their jobs because of this, while the rest thought it was cool or they just ignored it. But it never seemed to hurt my chances of getting the job once, and I probably find a way to hint at it with about 70% of my customers. So the fear was mostly in my mind.

One year my wife worked for a large corporation and we hosted World Naked Gardening Day at our house. The media found out so we let them all know and were on TV 4 times and on the front page of the local paper. NOTHING happened at work besides a few innocent jokes. Several thought it was really cool. And even though we were all over the news for it, we had no major issues with the general public, although our HOA did have a long discussion with us, which resulted in them realizing we weren’t out to flash their kids or anything, so it blew over just fine.

I also started wearing kilts and going out in public with my toes painted years ago. I thought these too would cause my issues. Neither hurt me at all, so most fears are indeed in our mind, we just have to be willing to confront them, which I know not all are. And I think that's sad, and is one reason we have such a hard time gaining the understanding of society, and our legal rights to have places to go nude besides our house or resorts, for those of us inland.

Until we realize that coming out is usually not nearly as traumatic as we think it will be, our whole dream of being accepted by the public may never happen. Those of us who dream of gaining rights to exercise our lifestyle choice in portions of parks, our front yard, etc may never see that happen if more of us don’t stand up for our beliefs and come out to everyone. I know many of you will post reasons you can’t, but I believe that only about 10-20% of you who think that, would actually have any problems. But the choice is of course yours.

And like a friend of mine, Maurice W. Smith said on Facebook - ” It is that simple, it really is. It's when you attempt keeping secrets instead of just being completely honest and open that people can use things against us. If you're open and honest then all people can do is try to use things against us but if we are open books then much of the power has been removed from those that are out to hurt us. No more fear.”

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How Public Indecency Laws Affect our Lifestyle

Public Indecency & How it Affects Nudists & Naturists

Walking nude through a neighborhood

In many areas of the US, nudists can be arrested for Indecent Exposure if seen naked in public areas. But what is Public Indecency?

According to Wikepedia - "In the United States, indecent exposure refers to conduct undertaken in a non-private or (in some jurisdictions) publicly viewable location, which is deemed indecent in nature, such as nudity, masturbation or sexual intercourse in public view"

So basically it is what society deems indecent to see in public. I can understand Masturbation, or intercourse, but our simple naked bodies are indecent? Does this really make sense to anyone? Sure, some don't want to see it, and we have been heavily conditioned to believe it's wrong, but that in and of itself doesn't make our bodies indecent and should not be the basis for a law. Society does not have the right to create laws just because something offends them.

It’s difficult to say why nudity makes us so uneasy, but it’s clear that our aversion to nakedness is longstanding and probably religious in nature. When upholding anti-indecency laws, several judges have pointed to the Bible.  But religion should be separated from our laws according to the separation of church and state.  But it's also likely that it's because we have for so long hidden our bodies from each other with clothes, therefore when we finally do see a naked body, it elicits a sexual response that many find embarrassing.  They feel that if they have these feelings, others will too and therefore it's a bad idea to allow it.  What they fail to realize is that the reason they feel that way about nudity is because it is so hidden from us.  If they saw nudity often, like many nudists do, they would get over that reaction and it would just seem normal, as proven by millions of nudists worldwide.  Sexual innuendo happens far less when nudists get together than when textiles get together.

When arguing against public nudity, phrases using ugly words like Rampant, Deviant, Explicit, Lewd, etc are often used to make our lifestyle look as ugly as possible because the only concern those against public nudity have is to win, at all costs.  This means that to them it's ok to use words that are not accurate but not a provable lie either, in order to make nudists and naturists look as immoral and deviant as possible.

We are so heavily conditioned to simply believe what we are told.  It often starts at childhood as our parents pass on to their children what they were taught, without really considering 'Why' it's wrong or necessary.  So we continue this chain of shame and embarrassment for generations.  The only way to stop this is to break the chain with your own children. 

Next argument, it's harmful to minors. This is also totally unproven and based solely on opinions. Here's from a study of the effects of nudity on children-

"Exposure to parental nudity was associated with positive, rather than negative, sexual experiences in adolescence, but with reduced sexual experience overall. Boys exposed to parental nudity were less likely to have engaged in theft in adolescence or to have used various psychedelic drugs and marijuana. There is no evidence that children are harmed by nonsexualized social nudity, and there is good reason to believe they are benefited by it. Proposals for laws banning to children the innocent experience of being human, appearing human, and seeing others as such are unwarranted, unfounded, and have no scholarly basis."
Ok, next argument. Then it's to maintain our moral standards and modesty. That is a matter of personal preference. I find it immoral to force others to wear clothing and to be ashamed of our naked bodies. And modesty is defined as "Modesty and demureness is a mode of dress and deportment intended to avoid encouraging sexual attraction in others". Well nudists have long known that it is much sexier and attractive to wear clothing, especially bikinis, mini skirts, etc, as in the photo below, (from http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51v1VWRc1-L.jpg) Being around a bunch of naked people is not a sexual turn on. Erections are pretty much non existent, and harrassment in public areas is also non existent, or MUCH less than in the general, clothed public.

This is much more erotic that simple nudity

 
It's time to seriously re-evaluate our laws making public nudity illegal.  And lets leave religion out of it and base the laws on PROOF.  If there's no proof of harm, then the law should NOT exist. 

Being arrested for public nudity is wrong

(The image above is from https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcS2CuYhZpVxd6jPUb4dZPCTd4OxhP16LsJ4oDpxKgctD96_9nNK)

I hope this helps and this is just some more information to help you understand why we need to end the laws that can ruin a persons life for being seen naked, doing nothing sexual or perverted.

Thank you,
Guy Purcella
Nudist/naturist and human rights activist

‪#‎endindecencylaws‬ ‪#‎endnuditylaws‬ ‪#‎nudeisnotlewd‬

The Life of a Nudist Activist

The Life of an Activist, (myself included)

What is an ACTIVIST? Here's a good definition-

An activist is a person who campaigns for some kind of social change. When you participate in a march protesting the closing of a neighborhood library, you're an activist. Someone who's actively involved in a protest or a political or social cause can be called an activist.

I stand up for many things and campaign for change in several of those often, but most notable for the acceptance of nudity in public and acceptance of our naked bodies. So yes, I'm an Activist.

The Price For Standing up For What You Believe in, or for Being an Activist.

Some of us feel a calling to stand up for something we believe is wrong and needs changed, and we realize that somebody has to do it, and if not us, then who? So we dedicate a lot of our time to trying to convey our message, and to reach others who are often misinformed about the subject we are an activist for. We post memes, share and tell stories, provide facts, etc, in an attempt not to force others to believe our way, but as a way to educate others about our cause.

But being an activist comes at a price, and it's a price we WILL pay, and one we are willing to pay. We can lose friends, family can pull away or even shun us, and sometimes our Facebook friends get tired of seeing our activist posts. We can also be arrested if we choose to fight laws we believe are injust, and of course we can lose Facebook accounts and have to start all over. But we are passionate about it and believe it is for the betterment of society. We believe that we CAN make a change so we sacrifice our time trying to reach others. Sometimes we are called names, and often we are preaching to the choir, but our hope is that some of you will share our posts and help us spread the word.

In my case, I can find NO logical reason that allowing others to see our human bodies without clothes should be cause for us to be arrested. The primary reasons I can come up with for those laws are the 'I don't want to see it' mentality and religious based reasons. There's no proof that the sight of a naked body in public will cause harm to anyone of any age so it comes down to not wanting to see it. In a longer post I can provide a lot of argument for the benefits of nudism, but I'll save that for another post.

For now my friends need to know that I will continue to be an activist for ending body shame and I'm willing to suffer the consequences for standing up for what is right. So now you know why I do it and I hope a few of you will join me in this cause.

We'll be filming nudist promotional videos soon

Hey everyone we have some exciting news! 

We have just launched a video production company to produce mostly how-to videos, but also informational and fun videos. But something I've wanted to do for quite awhile now is to produce videos to promote the nudist lifestyle, promoting a positive body acceptance, why others should try it, first timers experiences, etc.  We shot some using or phone a few years ago (like THIS example of me sanding and painting some doors naked, NOTE google has now removed the video) and always wanted to do some much better videos, which we now can.

 We already have a studio set up as shown below and have 3 Nikon cameras, Wireless microphone, Studio

Our Temporary Studio

lighting, etc., but we need more to do this professionally. We want to produce only high quality videos instead of the ones you often see with lousy lighting, poor sound, etc. (like the one we did on our phone, which was not so great)

Also,  if you have any ideas for some good videos related to this blog, let me know in the comments.

Thanks everyone, and we look forward to your support.

Guy Purcella

Reasons Society Doesn't Want to Allow Public Nudity

I've been thinking lately that many of the reasons we as nudists think that the public is not accepting of our public nudity, may be incomplete, so I did some research.  I found the site below and copied some of the most common reasons into the list below.  While this doesn't cover every reason out there, these were the most common reasons given.

So if we are going to try and convince the public that nudism is healthy and not something that should be illegal, we need to address the concerns listed above.  I will address a few of them here, but welcome your input as well.

1- What makes it right for one individual to decide who can and can't be seen naked in public, or in a bikini, etc? So many in this country are so embarrassed about the way their body looks due to this attitude.
2- Most of us know you can't std's from a toilet seat, so this is mostly moot.  And as we know, nudists sit on their own towels, but would the public if it was legal to be naked in public?  I actually have to admit, probably not, at least many of them.  So this is an understandable concern, although blown way out of proportion.
3- No proof of this, and as we know from visiting nudist resorts, this is totally untrue.  Actually, women are safer overall at nudist resorts than in public and get groped and such much more when dressed, than when nude.
4- Nudist families have proven for years that nudism does not harm kids and is actually beneficial as it teaches them what our bodies really look like, that our bodies are not shameful and it takes away that curiosity about the human body that generally only gets answered once they start having sex.  And because they are so much more open with their nudist parents, it's much easier for them to ask questions about sex and for the parents to discuss safe sex, etc.
5- Again, see #4
6- Clothing didn't make it innappropriate, society did that for puritanical reasons.  And by making nudity be associated with sex, as this person suggests is good, we teach kids that if they see a naked person that it's ok to be sexually suggestive to them, or to assume they want to have sex with you. Bad idea.
7- This doesn't even provide a reason they say it isn't wrong to be uncomfortable around naked people, just that it is the way our society is.  Being uncomfortable around naked bodies is teaching shame of our own bodies.  How can that be good?  100 years ago we could say 'It's not wrong to enslave another person for your own needs, as it's just the way our society is', but that didn't make sense then, and doesn't make sense now. We have the capacity to use out intelligence to decide if there is a real reason for being uncomfortable with nudity.  If there's not, we need to learn to get over it and embrace this wonderful body we have.
8- Nudists have never said clothing doesn't have a purpose.  But if you don't need clothes to protect you from the elements, or other danger, then why wear them?  And we have epidemic proportions of Vitamin D deficiency in this country from being brainwashed into believing we need to avoid all sun on our skin.  Nudists know how to not get sunburned by using sunscreen, limiting our time in the sun, etc, all without any clothes.  Bacteria?  Clothes harbor bacteria and make it worse.  Sure, if you wear long sleeve shirts, pants and such you are slightly more protected from bacteria and germs, but barely.  You pick up most germs from your hands, not your crotch, sorry.  So unless you wear gloves everywhere, your clothes are doing very little to protect you.
9-So, sophisticated means you have to spend a lot of money on clothes?  And what makes you think we all want to be 'Sophisticated'?  I see nothing sophisticated about it.  I see arrogance and pompous attitudes with the types of clothes we wear, and we use them to separate our selves into classes, but I don't see this as good.  I prefer to judge someone on their personality than the money they spent on clothes, but I guess we're not as smart as the sophisticated ones.  And again, nudist resorts prove that allowing public nudity doesn't lead to orgies or open copulation.  Besides, we can write the law to state that just because you are allowed to be naked in public, having sex in public is still an offense.
10- No, the advocacy of public nudity is NOT meant to be sexually charged.  This is someone making up crap out of ignorance or with the simple intent to make nudist look like perverts.

I welcome your input on these objections, and your thoughts as to my explanations.  I'm willing to modify these answers to better address the concerns society has if you show me a better way to do so.

Thank you,
Guy Purcella
www.wearlesslivemore.org

Why it May Never be Legal to be Nude in Public in the US

As a long time nudist who prefers to wear clothes less every day, I dream of the day I could at least walk out in my front driveway without clothes, similar to the picture below, but without the need to 'shield' the public from my naked body, and without the fear of being arrested for doing so.  And the thought of being able to go anywhere naked, such as shopping, a movie, dinner, etc, would be the ultimate freedom to me.  But sadly, I doubt that it will ever happen here in the US. 

Working Naked in my Driveway

I actually think that it’s possible, although very unlikely, for society to come to accept the idea of allowing people to live the way they want to, without dictating when and where they should wear clothes.  I also think that society may one day realize that the way we currently treat the issue of seeing a naked person in public is a form of body shaming, is silly, and is sending the wrong message to our children.  Those are issues that I hold out hope that one day our society can get over.

But here is the biggest problem I see.  First off, I think the main reason we are so uptight about public nudity is that it is automatically equated with sex.  Now as nudists, we know that getting naked is Not about sex for us.  But, if we were to legalize public nudity I believe the perverts would come crawling out of the woodwork, and that would be the biggest fear the public would have regarding legalizing public nudity.  We’ve seen it at nude beaches where they feel that having the right to be naked on a beach also gives them the right to have sex on the beach, or to masturbate in public, on these beaches. In most areas, the nudist community keeps them at bay through beach watches, nudist advocacy groups, etc.  But there are still a lot of areas where this activity continues to take place, despite these attempts.  And if nudity were legalized anywhere in public I can easily see the perverts sitting around, playing with themselves, even if discreetly, or gawking and staring at others, having sex in the bushes, etc.  And the police could suddenly get much busier trying to handle these new problems.

Sure, we could write laws to help prohibit this, but those would be difficult to enforce.  For example, how do you prevent creeps from staring at you, or your children, making you uncomfortable if you were enjoying a day in the park without clothes? And then there’s the issue of erections.  If the general public were able to be naked anywhere, then there would likely be many occurrences of men with erections.  The general public would not all follow the nudist rules of etiquette, and in public, I can see it happening often due to a more sexual atmosphere at times, such as a bar with dancing women, or other similar situations.  Even if we make public erections illegal, I’ve seen a lot of guys who appeared to be semi erect, even when they aren’t , so I could see a lot of false reports to police and judgement calls.  And even if a guy did have an erection and the cops were called, it would be gone by the time they arrived so would be a his word against theirs.

  I feel that overall the problem would be much less than the public would believe, but I also believe that it would be a real issue.  I think these are issues that are solvable, but I’m not so sure the public will ever believe that.  They will come up with a myriad of scenarios where being naked in public would be more dangerous, and convincing them otherwise would likely be a very difficult task to do.  So the easiest thing to do is to just continue to make it illegal to be naked in public.

But I’m not giving up on gaining my rights as a citizen to live my life, my way, as long as I’m not harming others.  I’ll also continue to work on helping society get over their body shame and in   Even if I never see the day I can walk out in my front yard naked without getting arrested, or cited, I’ll continue to do my part to stand up for nudists rights everywhere.  I hope more of you will join me in this cause.

If you are interested in helping to promote the cause of making it legal to be naked in more public places, reducing body shaming, gaining acceptance of the naked human body and more, join us on our Facebook page called ‘How can we Promote Nudism Faster in a Positive manner’ at https://www.facebook.com/groups/PromotingNudism/.  As of this post we have over 2,200 members and we are growing by about 10-20 new members per day.

I've Worked Naked in Customers Homes for Months

Guy Purcella working nude with customer permission

The last 4-5 months have been almost surreal.  I've been able to work naked in customers homes doing construction for about 4-5 months now, with their permission.  This is on 4 different jobs, and 2 of them were fine with my being undressed anytime, even when they were there, while the other simply asked that I put on clothes when she came home from work. And I'm very respectful of others desire to not see me naked, and really appreciated my 7 hours a day working on her home clothes free.

Guy Purcella, Finishing Drywall naked with permission

Even after all these months, I'm actually somewhat amazed at how many have let me do this.  I've always felt that the majority of society  is against nudists in general. But lately I am meeting more and more people who are either not bothered by it, or who enjoy nudism themselves. I think it is partly how we approach the subject that can often determine the response we get from someone. For example, on my most recent job we showed up at a customer's home who had a large orchard and a house with total privacy. We commented on the privacy he had and he said something to the effect of "yeah, it's really nice to be able to walk around without clothes, and even go out on the porch without worrying about offending someone".  I then let him know that I also enjoy doing things without clothes and even worked without clothes for the entire last two months on my previous job. He told me  that as far as he's concerned, he wasn't concerned with what I do or don't wear. Later I made sure he was okay with me not wearing anything, and he said yeah not a problem. So I was able to work the next eight days with nothing on and he never gave me even the slightest funny look.

My previous customer was a woman and even though I'm a man, she told me she trusted me and had no problem with me not wearing clothes while I worked.  She saw me many times on the job and never looked at me any differently than when I had clothes on. On that job I did a little bit of everything from tile work to drywall, paint, flooring, etc.

FB Friendly pic of Guy working nude on Earth Day

Maybe you're wondering why someone would want to do construction work without clothes on? the truth is that I would prefer to do most anything without clothes on unless it is absolutely necessary. Yes there are times when clothing is necessary, such as  when doing dangerous work like welding, demolition work, (yes I wore clothes during the demolition portion of the job), etc. Clothing also serves the purpose of keeping us warm, and can sometimes simply be fun to wear and get all dressed up to go out for an evening or something. But the majority of the time it is simply more comfortable to not have binding, sweaty clothing on. Plus it drastically cuts down on laundry when all I have to do is rinse off and the days  dusty work goes down the drain. I can tell you that each time I had to put clothing on I began sweating much more. So I was much cooler working without clothing, and definitely didn't have the binding red marks around my waist that I most always have when wearing jeans or shorts.

Painting naked really just makes sense

Do I act any differently when I'm working without clothing? No, except I am a little bit happier when I'm not wearing clothes. I'm sure that a lot of people assume that a man working naked on the job would often walk around in an aroused state, or be playing with himself etc., but for someone like myself who is a true nudist, that is absolutely not the case. Anyone that works naked with the intention of anything sexual at all, is not really a nudist, but is instead an exhibitionist and/or a pervert. And it's sad that the general public often assumes that all stories of someone doing something perverted while undressed means all nudists act this way.

And now one of the customers who four months ago allowed me to work naked on her job while she was at work, is requesting a bid for more work, so I may soon have another job where I can work comfortably without clothing.

Hopefully this is a continuing trend. I have a very good rapport with my customers, and they realize that I am a professional and do superior work, and those customers know that my being undressed while I work is simply a comfort issue and a lifestyle choice and is nothing weird or perverted.

Much cooler working naked

Sanding drywall naked

So to any of my previous customers, thank you very much for allowing me to be who I am, and to be comfortable on your job. I look forward to working with you again. 

For any new customers, if you are ok with this, please let me know, but I will not impose on you, nor pressure you if you are not.  And I won't work without clothes unless I have permission or total privacy in some way. I'm sure my customers would be willing to give me a positive referral if you need reassurance that I act no differently undressed than dressed, or simply want to discuss the quality of our work.

And for any of you  who work in a position such as mine, maybe you can find a way to bring it up with your customers, and get the opportunity to work in your creators uniform as well.

Good luck, and thank you all.

NOTE: My photos and story may be re-used elsewhere for nudist related content, and non sexual, non pornographic content as long as you give credit to myself, Guy Purcella and provide a clear link back to this page in the story itself.  Also, if used for profit, you must get my permission 1st.